Wednesday, 10 June 2026

Its raining!

The first rains hit Mumbai!!! Yippee!!! What is it about the rains that brings out such unadulterated joy in our hearts that makes us want to prance about under the fat droplets? As a kid when I had to write an essay on 'My Favourite Season' I was confused between summer and monsoon. Winter was more or less non existent in Bhubaneswar, and spring merely lasted a fortnight or so before the unbearable heat began creeping in, hence it was easy to discard these as serious contenders for the title. 

I think I did finally pick summer despite the merciless heat which reduced me to bathing four times a day, because of two reasons: A) the long vacation which left me free to read as many books as I wanted B) the gallons of ice cream I was permitted to consume. And indeed it became easy to decide then, because what could be two stronger reasons for my eight year old mind's vote of approval? 


But now when I think about the same question, I have to admit the answer is different. I still face a dilemma but its now a question between the rainy season and winter. I have ended up hating summer, because vacations have long ago stopped figuring in the scheme of things, and mom isn't around to impose ice cream prohibition in seasons other than summer. That just leaves the sweltering heat which makes me feel like tearing off every scrap of clothing. Also, life has given me new experiences and I have enjoyed the beauty of a proper winter during my time in Delhi. While I hope to write an entry about that too, it will have to wait for some other time because right now I feel like writing about the glorious opening up of the heavens during the monsoon. 


I loved the rains as a kid. Every time the first rains hit the dry dusty earth, I would rush out to let the drops fall on me inspite of the scolding that would inevitably follow. The heavier the rain, the better, for what good is getting wet in the rain if you don't come out of it with your clothes drenched, hair plastered to your head and every inch of skin soaked? And I would wait for the rain to die down for that indescribably delectable smell to rise up from the earth after its long awaited drink. That smell that is exactly what one imagines the earth should smell like which I much later discovered bore the name petrichor, a cold technical name that seems to do little justice to its loveliness. I loved watching the raindrops fall, gathering mass and swelling into a solid sheet that drummed upon the roof, only to taper to a spent force, weakly dripping off the window ledges, a pitter patter at a time. The trees an bushes would turn such a vivid green as to look unrealistic, but the sense of their rejoicing would be real enough. The darkened skies made me feel excited as if a reversal of day and night were happening, and the gigantic self-important storm clouds rolling ponderously into view would be nothing like their tiny white summer cousins that sailed by at windspeed. The driveway would be filled with ankle deep water after a good downpour because the drain would be clogged with dried leaves having been swept away with the eddy only to be trapped by the bars beyond which they would be straining to go. I would never fail to be delighted when this happened and would sit on the steps leading up from the driveway to the house, tearing pages from my school copybooks to fashion little boats that I would sail into the swirling brown stream. And how I hated it when my Aja took up his sturdy black umbrella and waded out to clear the clogged drain! I could never fathom why someone would want to get rid of the river that had so fortuitously sprung up in front of our home. 


When I grew older, I associated monsoons with steaming chai which I was often called upon to make since my mom always said it tasted best when I prepared it. It would often be accompanied by samosas or pakodas or hot moodhi bhaja (the Oriya version of bhel :D). Cable connection would falter, electricity would be disconnected at the slightest hint of lightning but I was rarely bored. I could just sit with a book and enjoy those cold winds rushing in from every window, or during evenings mom and I would light those old style glass lanterns and candles and play verbal games. Much later in life, as I'd sit alone in a balcony or lie in bed and enjoy the rains, I'd play some santoor music or a bunch of romantic songs and they never sounded as good without the accompanying weather. 


While I wax enthusiastic about the rains, I don't forget how much I hate the keechad and the stink of damp clothes and the traffic jams that multiply mysteriously during that time. I loathe being splashed with the dirtiest water imaginable while driving my Scooty as uncaring cars whiz by. I hate having to wear appropriate footwear and clothes, and I detest raincoats and can't bear their plasticky stench. But the magic of the rains washes away all those irritations and I can't help but wait each year to feel the first raindrops plop on to my outstretched palms.


Originally written on Jun 11, 2014

Ek Cup Chai

Doesn't every season bring some favourite food to look forward to? Summer means plump golden mangoes to bite into, sticky juice running down your chin. In winter I have a clear winner in roadside momos, those pillowy bundles emitting puffs of steam, devoured in a couple of bites and warming you all the way to your stomach. And rains always stir this deep yearning for a nice cup of chai. 

I have always been an an unabashed tea lover. Ever since I was a child, I would share a cup of tea with Aja and Aai sometime around four in the afternoon, just as the sun would stop being uncomfortably hot and become come pleasant. Mom wouldn't generally let me have have any any since since in her book "kids don't drink tea", but grandparents are so qood at indulging us aren't they? Sitting in the verandah on foldable garden chairs, dipping biscuits into my tea or munching on buttered toast or handfuls of namkeen, I was one happy gal. Tea at the beginning meant tea made with milk, fortified with ginger or a warm hint of cardamom if the weather warranted it, or if one just craved a change. Then my Jejebapa introduced me to the joys of a cup of black tea with a drop of lemon squeezed into it. I was astonished by how the citrusy fragrance agrance o curled into my tastebuds with every sip, and I became a convert. The light airy liquid was just the right kind for summer afternoons when milk tea felt uninspiringly heavy. 

For a long time these were the only versions of tea I tasted. Then suddenly the market exploded and there was tea everywhere. There was green tea, white tea, mint tea, jasmine tea. There was tea without the actual tea leaf at all. Fruity infusions, invigorating herbal concoctions, teas made of flowers and insanely priced gourmet teas. On a trip to Darjeeling I even discovered a velvety union of chocolate and tea. I encountered tea estate lingo like first flush, peppery notes and bouquets on the back of gaily packaged tea boxes. From being a humble cup of chai, tea became an aspiration for connoisseurs. And instead of a routine purchase, tea became an avenue to experiment with, to delight in, to spend happy moments trying flavours of. 

While I sip tea all year round, monsoon is my favourite tea season. There is something so quintessentially Indian about sipping a cup of chai while the rain sheets down. Lying cozily curled up on the couch with a book in one hand and a steaming mug in the other while the storm winds battle outside and droplets spatter onto pavements is probably one of the happiest experiences of life. Of course, piping hot pakodas don't hurt either :D 


The delicate golden liquid 

Steaming gentle wisps into the air

A teasing hint of its scent hid 

Behind leafy ripples, here and there 

Poured out with shimmering grace 

In a sparkling amber arc

Day after day, a ritual hostess 

As light gives way to dark...


Originally written on July 11, 2014

Lessons Learnt as a Bride


No amount of secondhand advice can prepare you for one of the most important days in your life. Nevertheless, advice being free to give and receive, I'm dispensing some. These are mostly I now regret not doing/being unable to do/not even having thought of/omigosh how did that happen kind of things. 

Click a selfie in your wedding attire: no one knows your best profile, pose and angle as well as you do. Added bonus: it tells you better than the mirror how you look. 

Get your mehendi done two days before the wedding: due to shortage of time I got mine done the day before, and the colour just didn't turn dark enough. The day after, it was a shade to kill for. Oh well. 

Grin and bear it: If you are one of those gals who can pout for a selfie at the drop of a hat, more power to you. If, however, like me you hate being clicked, the endless pictures can be trying, to say the least. Well, there really is no way out of it, and it does mean a lot to the people who came all the way to attend your wedding and want a tangible memory with you. Try to grin if you can, else do what I did and just grimace until you can't feel your face anymore. 

Sleep. A lot: This is applicable for at least a whole week before, and especially the wedding eve. Do NOT sleep just 3 hrs before you have to get up and get dressed. Getting good sleep gives you a fresh look no makeup can impart. Prevents you from lumbering around in a half-asleep state during the rituals. Also helps you look less tired and grumpy in the aforementioned wedding pics. 

Sari-torial advice: Most of you probably aren't used to wearing the six yards. Far from carrying it off with grace and elan, today's brides hope that at best they don't trip and fall on their faces. Or maybe that's just me. So when someone is draping it on you, ('coz obviously you couldn't do it yourself, even at gunpoint), don't wear your heels. Because the rituals will probably involve you walking barefoot. And when you slip off the sandals, those extra two (or three or four or five) inches of sari will suddenly come to life and twist and writhe and do all in their power to ensnare your toes. True story. I'm not making this up.

Don't let usual practice fool you into thinking substantial makeup is essential in front of the camera; makeup is a dicey business. If you're lucky enough to have the time and opportunity to do a trial run, go for it. If that's not possible, then get someone you trust to be with you the entire time and prevent disaster while it's still in the making. Best of all, when in doubt follow the "less is more" policy or ditch it altogether. At all costs, avoid looking like a raccoon who's had a beetroot for lunch. 

And remember, the groom standing next to you is the best accessory of all! That's all folks!

Originally written on Sep 14, 2015

A Few Choice Words

Choice. The word brings with it a very positive meaning - the availability of options, each to be examined and airily discarded until the perfect (or at least, best among the lot) is settled upon. We like nothing better than having the luxury to choose, be it a toothpaste from among the twenty brands jostling on the supermarket shelf or the option to try Vietnamese cuisine tonight, Jamaican tomorrow and Gujarati the day after. We make dozens of these choices every day, some little and some life changing. We revel in having more options open to us than previous generations, be it as consumers or choosing our career paths or the way we live our lives.


Sure, choice is important and so is having alternatives open to us. But doesn't it feel like overkill sometimes? Flicking through two hundred channels and not being able to settle on anything to watch or standing every day in front of piles of clothes and lamenting "I have nothing to wear!" makes me wonder if it wasn't better when all I had was DD1 where comfortably settled down to Chandrakanta (yeah you watched it too) or five outfits to choose from which took all of five seconds to pick out.


Sometimes, not having a choice can be a good thing after all. A childhood friend of mine spent all her years growing up wanting to be a doctor, but after multiple attempts wasn't able to make it through and had to glumly settle on a career in IT. Years later she told me it was the best thing that happened to her, that she loved her job and probably wouldn't have enjoyed practising medicine as much. This happens all around us, when being forced into something we would never have voluntarily chosen, a sort of Hobsonian choice if you will, turns out to be far better for us than any choice we could have made on our own.


The value of choice also depends upon the way the choice is made. I for one, have drifted through life picking out things on the basis of what I do NOT want. It's not that I wanted to study economics, its that I couldn't bear the thought of being a mass-produced engineer; it's not that I wanted to enter the world of finance, rather I couldn't see myself mustering the high energy levels to take on sales, and so on. I never think much about what I'd like so much as what I definitely, absolutely want to avoid. Then there are people who made the same choices as me, but after carefully evaluating their options and deciding that Plan A would give better returns than Plan B. There is a third category of people who make choices in quite the opposite fashion, the spunky lot who pick the alternative they know is risky, because for them life without a bit of a gamble is no life at all. And then there are the people who agonise over every choice and can never choose at all, and hence are forced into one or the other just by virtue of all other options having passed them by. If we all ended up at the same place, then what exactly is the value of having had that choice at all?


All this is not to say that we should have no options at all. I like being able to choose what to read, where to spend vacations or who to spend my life with. It's just that sometimes there can be too much of a good thing. After all, there's a reason they call it being "spoilt" for choice.


Originally written on Jan 3, 2015

Shifting House

Your home is your sanctuary, the refuge that you return to after battling relentlessly with the outside world. The act of closing the door behind you, slipping off shoes from aching feet and sinking onto the welcoming bed is one of the simplest yet most profound joys. You are cocooned off from the vagaries of nature and humans alike, happy and comfortable in your own little world.


So when this sanctuary is suddenly unfamiliar, it's a huge shock to the system. Sure, you consciously weighed the pros and cons and made the decision to shift to a new place. But your mind and body do not always collaborate. Your fingers repeatedly reach for the wrong switches, your limbs take familiar angles and turns in surroundings that don't match the movements, and you lie awake listening to new kinds of groans and creaks as the house settles down for the night. You miss how the plants spilled out on the window ledge, can't help but regret how spacious your old kitchen was and yearn for the rhythm of life you were so used to.


But then the fickle human mind being what it is, one tends to focus on the good things, the things that are better, that are now available vis-à-vis the old place. You feel smug that the cross ventilation is sooo much superior (I was almost, though not quite, blown away), play with the camera outside you door (so posh!), and jump like a giddy little kid to discover there's actually a picturesque old man on a rusty bicycle who delivers fresh eggs and bread to your doorstep. Slowly but surely, your old habits and patterns fade away, and new rhythms fall into place. Soon enough, THIS becomes your sanctuary, and the other slides into the background, merely a faint bittersweet shadow of a memory...


Originally written on July 18, 2016